So, here is the Big question... now that the internet is so huge among young people is there a proper way to talk about friends or about what is going on in your life that involves your friends? Well, lately this has really been on my mind. Recently I have heard of situations where several people are being rude to their so called "friends" on a social networking site and then getting upset when things go aray. Or where someone has said something about someone and then expects them to be happy go lucky about it. In my opinion I think the best rule for everyone to have is that if you can't say something nice about someone don't say anything at all! I'm not going to name names because people will probably think it's them, but I will say scenarios.
First, to my married friends... most of this does not pertain to you and you are part of the reason I have begun to be extremely careful of what I say about others on a public networking site... I mean even if you are pertaining to "those people" the people it's about can usually figure it out. Again, I apologize to them for anything I did.
Now, to the situation I'm seeing from the outside currently and mostly staying out of, but getting very irritated by seeing it pop up on my wall all the time. I think it very rude for anyone to publicly say on a social networking site that a group of people make the worst friends. I mean seriously... you never know what that person's life is like. Or what it's like for them to be over the age of 21 and still live under your parents roof trying to make a living. You never know how hard it might be for them to find a well paying job, or if they are actually feeling 100% everyday. Sometimes people talk about others behind backs, but not always are things that are said absolutely awful and horrible. So, if I'm mostly staying out of this situation then why is it bothering me so much? Because the fact is that over the past year living in Utah (mostly Bountiful) has truly grown on me and those people that have been really amazing friends to me while I've been here keep getting slammed by others. So, some may wonder now.... why care so much? I have always had respect to people that show generosity to me or any member of my family. While living here in Bountiful over the past year (especially within the past few months) I have met the most generous people ever. Most of the guys would give you the shirts off their backs and most of the girls would be there if you needed a shoulder to cry on (this includes all the married people I've met). So, in my opinion if you want people to like you don't talk about them like that in public. No, it's not cool to talk about people behind their backs, but a lesson I learned a long time ago and well, it got drilled into my head recently too is that no matter what you think people are going to talk about you. The only way to change it is to allow them to talk about you in a good way by being a good person.
Does this apply to people in particular? It's possible. If they would like to know for sure... they can ask me and I'll be straight with them. Moral of my story... if you don't want someone to be publicly rude to you... don't be publicly rude to them on a social networking site even if you aren't naming names... it's kinda like this post... you know it pertains to you and you are being dumb... yeah... this post isn't to anyone in particular just getting out frustrations I've had for the past few months or so.
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